Beyond the Wedding Day: Building Your Sacred Foundation Together

Are you sooooo ready to finally get married? It may have been a long time coming or a whirlwind courtship, but you’re ready to finally make the biggest commitment in your life. You feel like you’re on top of the world, and nothing is going to stop you. Trust me, I feel ya.

And then you enter the planning phase. You spend months planning your wedding – choosing the perfect venue, finding the right dress, tasting every cake flavor that could possibly exist. You worry about what everyone will think of the reception, how your spouse will feel on the big day, whether or not you’ve refined your vows enough, and just want everything to be perfect. Sounds very familiar.

But what about the next day? And the day after that? Have you put that same energy into planning your marriage? 💎🎉

I know my couples totally mean it when they say “for as long as we both shall live” but I also know that some of them have know idea what they’re doing after the I Dos. That’s where pre-marital counseling becomes an important part of the wedding planning process. Rather than being just a box to check for some religious traditions, premarital counseling can be one of the most important investments you can make in your relationship’s future. Think of it as relationship insurance, helping you identify potential challenges before they become marriage-threatening storms and giving you the tools to build something truly sacred together.

I know that no-one wants a bigger task list before the big day, but knowing that you have taken the time to really understand your partner, and to create a “blueprint” for your new life together (whether you have been together for a long time or not) will make the wonderful elements you’ve planned for the big day all the more satisfying.

Marriage is More Than Love – It’s Sacred Partnership

I’ve been counseling couples and individuals since 2008, and I can tell you this: the couples who thrive are the ones who understand that marriage will be both a romantic partnership and a practical one. You’re about to become more than lovers – you’ll be business partners in life, co-creators of something bigger than yourselves.

When you exchange vows, you’ll be creating what I call a Sacred Relationship – an opportunity for transformation where you see the divine in each other and experience true oneness. But that sacred bond needs a solid foundation to flourish, and that foundation should be built through intentional planning and honest exchanges before you walk down the aisle.

While you’re busy picking flowers and choosing venues, there are some crucial conversations that often get pushed aside. “We’ll figure it out after the wedding,” you might say. But here’s what I’ve learned from working with hundreds of couples: the ones who put in the homework before the big day start their marriages with a huge advantage, and reap greater rewards in the future.

The conversations that change everything:

• When do you actually want kids? (Hint: “someday” isn’t a timeline)
• What does your dream retirement look like? (And how will you pay for it?)
• How do you want to be remembered? (Legacy planning isn’t just for the wealthy)
• What happens when health issues arise? (They will)
• How will you make time for joy together? (Life won’t just hand it to you)

These aren’t just practical conversations – they’re sacred ones. And there’s a specific way to have them that brings you closer together instead of creating stress during your engagement. Trust me, you’ll grow closer by facing these issues early on, and having a foundation to see you through them in the future.

Start Building Your Sacred Relationship Foundation Now

So what if this feels like too much and you don’t know where to start with building a [racatical and emotional foundation for your marriage? Don’t worry, just like I guide you down the aisle, I can guide you into your future as well. I’ve created the “Sacred Relationships Marriage Foundation Course” to help you on your journey. Just like I customize each wedding ceremony to reflect the unique love story of each couple, I’ve designed this course to help engaged couples customize their marriage foundation to reflect their specific dreams, values, and goals before signing the marriage license and sealing the deal.

In Sacred Relationships, we dive deep into the practical and spiritual aspects of building a life together. You’ll learn how to have those crucial conversations about money, family, health, and dreams in a way that brings you closer together rather than creating tension during your engagement. We explore how to create a sacred contract – a Marriage Mission Statement, which will be a dynamic agreement about how you want to show up for each other and the world in the days and years to come.

This isn’t about following someone else’s template for marriage. Just like the ceremonies I create for couples, this is about discovering what sacred partnership means specifically for you two, and then building the practical systems to support that vision from day one of your marriage. On your own terms. Just like your wedding day.

Your Engagement Deserves This Foundation

I know that wedding planning is overwhelming, and if you’ve made it this far in your relationship, you’re already doing something right! But love alone isn’t enough – even the most passionate couples need practical skills and clear agreements to thrive long-term.

Think of it this way: you wouldn’t plan a wedding without a foundation of vendors, timeline, and budget. Why would you enter marriage without a foundation of shared values, clear communication, and practical planning? The Sacred Relationships course gives you the tools to pour that foundation together during your engagement, so you can start your marriage strong and ready for whatever comes your way.

Under this vast Montana sky, every vista evokes a sense of eternal wonder and peace. Your marriage deserves to start with that same sense of eternal wonder – not just in the moment you say “I Do,” but with the confidence that comes from knowing you’ve done the sacred work of preparation together.

Your love story is sacred. Your upcoming partnership is divine. And the practical work of preparing to build a life together? That’s sacred too.

Ready to make your engagement about more than just wedding planning? Let’s do the deep, transformative work of preparing for Sacred Relationship together. Because the best marriages don’t just happen – they’re intentionally created by couples who do the work before they walk down the aisle.

Check out the online course – enrollment is now open!