Special Moments

1. SAND CEREMONY 

Groom and Bride, you have just sealed your relationship by giving and receiving  of rings and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. 

The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, Bride, and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Groom, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.  

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the  individual containers, so will your marriage be. 

2. UNITY CANDLE 

(usually done with music only, but I like this poem) 

Two Souls 

by Harold Douglas  

Soft mists embrace two golden flames, 

Alone they search the night. 

Two souls adrift in dreams of love, 

They seek to claim the light. 

The path is long from which they came, 

But sure they are it’s right. 

Two flames embrace in dreams of love, 

Two Souls – Two Hearts Unite.

3. FAMILY UNITY 

There are children who will share in this marriage. The gathering of this new family will have a deep influence upon them. It will both complicate and enrich their lives. They will also have much to contribute to this new family. We realize that in order for the home to be a happy one, it is essential that there be love and understanding between the children and the adults being married.  

Is your love for each other broad enough to include _________ (name the  child/children) and deep enough to honor their presence in this marriage and to  pledge yourselves to love and care for them?  

Bride and Groom: “We will.”  

Officiant to Children: You are a vital part of this new marriage. Bride and Groom give you their unconditional love and honor your presence in their lives.  _________, you will have a share in this union, for your life/lives will be touched  by the covenant being made here today. Your participation is requested to help develop the bonds of a new family.  

As Bride and Groom have exchanged their pledges in holy union, we ask from you also a pledge, that you will join together to weave a fabric of mutual help and comfort, of challenge and support, and that you will help create a home and a way of life in which all of you may grow into the fullness of the best people you can be. Will you now pledge to do your best to help make a happy and successful home for all of you by your love and cooperation?”  

Child/Children: “We will.” 

4. KEEPSAKE BOX 

The dreams that you have each brought to this relationship are now becoming the same dream. Please take a moment to dedicate this Keepsake Box to hold your dreams as a couple. (they place special items in box)

When you look upon these items sometime far in the future, the little day to day  worries will seem unimportant. You will only remember the love that you built your life upon, which will carry you to eternity. 

 5. BREAKING OF THE GLASS 

Like your marriage, this glass is a beautiful thing. It’s clean and clear, allowing  sunshine to flow through it. If cared for properly, it can last a lifetime. Like a marriage though, it can also be quite fragile. 

The symbolism of the breaking of the glass represents several things. It is a reminder of sadness even in the most joyous of times, that as we celebrate there are those who are suffering and need our help. 

It reminds us that our world and the people and relationships in that world are fragile and easily broken or hurt. It is a reminder for everyone listening to be gentle with one another. It reminds the couple that their marriage is fragile and that like the glass it can be shattered if they don’t take care of one another.  

And lastly the breaking of the glass is final and unchangeable. The glass is broken as a reminder of the irrevocable act of marriage. Your vows can no more be undone than this glass could be made whole again. 

(break glass) 

Guests: “Mazel Tov!!” 

May your bond of love be as difficult to break as it would be to put back together the pieces of this glass. Cherish each other with the love and respect the love of your life deserves. 

6. WINE CEREMONY  

This wine glass is to remind you of your commitment to each other. Delicate, yet  strong; filled with love, yet with room for more. It symbolizes two people coming  together to share one life, one love. Use this loving cup for miracles. Throughout your relationship, fill it with forgiveness, understanding and appreciation. Drink  

deeply and often. Whenever you do, remember this: Love is real. Once created, it cannot be destroyed. It is eternal. 

(groom pours wine for bride – bride drinks; using the same cup, bride pours wine  for groom – groom drinks) 

7. THE THIRTEEN GOLD COINS (Trece monedas de oro) 

The custom of the coins originated in Spain. Thirteen gold coins (arras) are given to the  bride by the bridegroom, signifying he will support her.  

As I count out the 13 coins and place them in the groom’s hands they also represent  different values that the couple desire to share between themselves: love, harmony.  cooperation, commitment, peace, happiness, trust, respect, caring, wisdom, joy,  wholeness and nurturing.  

“Lo mio es tuyo y lo tyo is mio” 

May these coins be a symbol of this couple’s mutual love, fidelity and trust.

8. HANDFASTING CEREMONY

The handfasting is a symbolic binding of the hands that inspired the terms “Bonds of Holy Matrimony” and to “Tie the knot”. Woven into this cord, imbued into its very fibers, are all the hopes and dreams of your new life together. 

Will you honor and respect one another,

and seek to never break that honor?

“We will.”

And so the binding is made.

Will you share each other’s pain and seek to ease it?

“We will.” 

And so the binding is made

Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

“We will.”

And so the binding is made.

Will you share each other’s laughter, and look for the brightness in life

and the positive in each other?

“We will.”

And so the binding is made.

Groom and Bride, as your hands are bound together now, so your lives and spirits are joined in a union of love and trust. Above you are the stars and below you is the earth.

Like the stars your love should be a constant source of light, and like the earth, a firm foundation from which to grow.

9. FAMILY HUG 

Would the family members of Groom and Bride please step forward and show your  support for this couple. 

[HUG!]

Witnessing their pledge reminds us of the things that we’ve devoted our lives to, our  partners, our work, our passions. A wedding is a reflection of love and devotion shared  not lonely between the betrothed, but also among their community.

10. THE LAZO (El lazo) 

At this the time Groom and Bride would like to symbolize their union with a Mexican  wedding tradition called the Lazo, or Lasso Ceremony. The loop is symbolic of their love  which should bind the couple together every day as they equally share the responsibility  of marriage for the rest of their lives. 

______and ______ WILL BE BOUND BY_______________________? “The lasso of  rosary”, symbolizes the inseparable nature of the newly married couple.

Special Moments